1.24.09 - Interview!
SingleGirl posted this interview, and I sent her a comment saying "Pick me!"
She did. And now I realize that the answering is not so easy... she came up with some difficult questions, that girl!
Questions from SingleGirl:
1. If you have to identify one key ingredient to your successful marriage, what is it?
Maybe that I don't define it as "successful"... it's dynamic, and for me putting a name on it might freeze the expectation, like saying since it's successful then as a result we don't have to work at it. We do. Sometimes Hubby and I work really well together, sometimes we're out of sync, just like any two friends/partners. But we can tell when the other needs shoring up, special attention, and we're pretty good at taking care of each other that way. And I also feel that we make the choice every day to be married and committed to each other... I choose every day to be with him, not with someone else, not alone, and to be a partner, not a liability or an obstacle. I'm sometimes not as good at that last part, but I try...
2. How do you define good art?
Good art makes me feel something. It's not always something that I want to feel, or a perspective that I want to see, and it doesn't always hit me in the moment...but it takes me out of my daily experience, makes me feel something larger than my day-to-day life.
3. You’ve blogged about both the ways that you have a positive (loving to cook) and negative (emotional eating) relationship with food. How will you know you’ve made peace with your relationship with food and, as a result, your body image?
Oh, wow...I'm not sure if that day will ever come. I don't feel like it's a box that I'll someday get to check off. Food has always been a reward for me, and cooking and food really facilitated my adult relationship with my dad: sharing recipes, finding an excellent bottle of wine, savoring every bite. I loved being his sous-chef during the holidays! But my dad struggled with his weight, and had gastric bypass a few years before he passed away...even after the surgery he had a love for food, but had to be constantly in control of what and how much he ate. I can totally see myself getting like big like he was, and actually put on 20 pounds over the past year dealing with his death. But I'm trying to find more balance...to work out more than eat, to sweat instead of stuff. It's so much a process, but I guess I'll consider it successful if I'm able to get into a routine where physical activity is an equal reward to a nice glass of wine or piece of chocolate, and I can enjoy both without going overboard.
4. You choose 5 good things/thoughts from each day. What about the days you struggle to narrow the list of good things down and the days you scratch the bottom of the barrel for the good?
I'm a Pollyanna - I usually can think of many, many things I'm thankful for. Sometimes, when I'm feeling sorry for myself it's more difficult, but let's be honest: I have a roof, a full belly, I'm loved and warm... I could probably walk a mile or two and find people who couldn't lay claim to those same comforts. Counting my blessings is easy, even though often the things I'm thankful for are on the shallow side...
5. You recently moved into a new house. In which moment did it become not a house, but a home?
We moved in on my birthday, so it felt like a special thing from the first day (although note to hubby and any men who read this: moving on my birthday does not count as giving me a present!); and because it was during our busy season at work, I was busting a move to get everything set up. That evening our good friends surprised us stopped by, and we ordered pizza and drank beer and champagne in our new house to celebrate moving day and birthday. I took a moment, coming in from the kitchen to look at hubby and my friends, relaxing and chatting, surrounded by clutter and boxes and empty walls, and knew that we were home. I get a little teary thinking about it.
Bonus: You are handed $300 in cash. You have to spend it over your lunch hour today (my questions, my rules!). What do you buy?
Three hundred free dollars? Woo-HOO! I should do something grand with it, donate it to charity, buy my mom or hubby a surprise or something. But I'm feeling a little selfish today, so I'm going to spend it like this:
$80 - New shoes. Probably a DSW buy, but maybe not...
$80 - Levinger. A new pen and paper...some combination that makes writing a tactile pleasure, maybe stationery so that I can send friends real letters, rather than emails. That'd be lovely.
$40 - Music - a new CD or an iTunes purchase, preferably something I can sing along with in the kitchen or that will make me move on the treadmill. (any suggestions?)
$20 - Bottle of wine - naturally :)
$80 - Groceries to cook with - something exotic from Whole Foods that I've never worked with, maybe...I love an excuse to have company over to eat! Or maybe I'll skip cooking tonight and take hubby to the sushi place around the corner from the house. Mmmm...
If you'd like to play along, just follow these instructions:
1. Leave me a comment saying, "Interview me."
2. I will respond by emailing you five questions. I get to pick the questions.
3. You will update your blog with the answers to the questions. Be sure you link back to the original post.
4. You will include this explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
5. When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
- Friends who make me think and challenge me - thanks, SingleGirl!
- Coming home after a late rehearsal to a tidy house - thanks, hubby!
- Watching middle school students dance to Pat Benatar...makes me feel less old. And love really is a battlefield, especially when you're 13...
- Having professional excuses to reconnect with friends.
- Home improvement TV. Second only to food porn....I mean, cooking shows.